Show Others You Value Them
- Use people's name. Everyone likes to hear his/her name and to know that you are interested enough to remember it. And spell it correctly. I know people who spell their name: "Scot", "Ric", "Kathee", "Jon". Ask how to spell their name which will help you remember.
- Acknowledge their presence. Something as simple as: “Good morning. How are you, Mary? I missed you at today’s meeting,” can be a way to show someone you are aware of her existence.
- Remember small details about them. To them it is not small and is a huge connector.
- Remember their––and if you are really close and connected the members of their family’s––birthday, anniversary, graduation, or other significant occasion by sending a card, gift, or connecting electronically or by telephone. People are often impressed when someone remembers occasions that are special to them. I remember because I write them down and store in my contact management system. I record this from my phone into my database. Technology makes this easy.
- Let the person know you are available to help them in some way. Use your expertise to help others (within acceptable boundaries and parameters).
- Be in the moment when speaking to them. This means listening closely to what is/is not said, as well as absorbing body language when face-to-face. Letting someone know you are truly in the moment when you speak with them can be manifested by small acknowledgements of their personality, work, hobby, etc.
- Give proper credit. Giving credit where credit is due is important to valuing someone. It also raises your credibility in their eyes.
- Be fair, regardless of their status or position. Treating someone fairly means enforcing the rules of civility for everyone all the time.
- Be equitable. Playing favorites because it suits your agenda or circumstance is devaluating to the receiver and to observers. Everyone has importance and deserves respect.