She was a woman of class, style, grace and had a very dry sense of humor. She had a special relationship with everyone she met and as one of her business advisors once said, "Never underestimate the brilliance of Molly." She also never minced words-her motto was usually, "get to the point!"On the morning of the day she passed, she walked with her nurse to go out for lunch and she put on her lilac champagne lipstick (of which I found 20 tubes around her home) and brushed her hair- and said, "How do I look!?" As you can see from this picture, she looked very good! She was so beautiful inside and out.
My Mom, like my wonderful father Paul, was my hero. I was so touched by the outpouring of love from all of the people she knew in her life. She is now my guardian angel and I know she is with my Dad and they are both making sure to give everyone they meet a smile and a handshake in heaven.
If you are lucky enough to still have your mother here on earth, make sure you give her a big hug today. Cherish her.
"Ma–I’m thinking of you with so much love!!"
Archives for September 2007
Advertisers are continually ‘testing’ their commercial long before they go into production to see how effectively they communicate. As the summer draws to an end and we are all ‘back to school’ in a sense to gear up for the fall and winter, we will be in new formal events and functions and just living our ‘everyday networking life’. Everyday is the key – that is where ‘real networking’ occurs.
When we meet people, it is important to quickly and clearly let them know who and what we are. To do this in a way that is concise, enthusiastic, and memorable, it is sometimes called your "infomercial." I like to use the acronym S.T.R.A.T.E.G.Y..
S-Make your infomercial Short and Succinct-Does it make the other person say
"tell me more” or “how do you do that?" Grab them with an ‘actionable’
headline. "I take the fear out of standing up and speaking in public…"
T-Think of it in advance.- Create different ones according to the ‘audience’ if you
can in advance. People create images and assumptions in their mind, so as
The Boy Scouts would say "be prepared"
R-Remember the Results you want to achieve. We want them to say "tell me
A-Be Articulate in your message. Paint in the other person’s mind a "word
picture." Help them ‘see’ what you do easily and effectively.
T-Time is of the essence-20 seconds is optimal. Or you will see: "M.E.G.O."
“My Eyes Glaze Over”.
E-Speak with Enthusiasm and Energy. – Your approach can be contagious when
you show your passion and interest – which means you need to have some
‘action’ in what you say.
G-Set a Goal to attain. How do you focus on what you do as a ‘benefit’ – such as
"I work with organizations that are facing the challenges of a new economy and
have a service that creates new business for them…"
Y-Focus on the "You" (the other person) – Make it easy for them to hear and
listen to you. I always give my quick ‘headline’ and then say, "What is it you
do?" Then I can find a way to "connect the dots" with us by relating to what
they have told me.
When you carefully plan how you introduce yourself, you will start interesting, dynamic conversations. Always make the person you are speaking with curious and interested. Tell them something that will stay in their mind when they think of you. The bottom line is to introduce yourself in a way that will make people want to know you better. Developing those relationships is the heart of networking.
In three to six seconds you can butter a piece of toast, cross the street, or stamp two envelopes.
Three to six seconds can also help you build more meaningful relationships with your partner and colleagues.
According to Leil Lowndes, in just a few secons you can bond with everybody:
“Everybody? That’s impossible,” you rightfully protest. I agree, it sounds like an outlandish exaggeration. But it’s not. Read on . . .
The technique is similar to “The 6 Second Kiss” which is, quite simply (though seldom practiced,) planting 3 kisses a day on your spouse or partner – each kiss lasting 6 seconds. (Gentlemen, forget the “peck” when you’re going or coming from work – give her the full six seconds!)
But we’re not talking partners; kisses; and 6 seconds here. We’re talking everybody; warm gazes; and 3 seconds. When, say, a colleague or employee enters your office, immediately stop what you’re doing and reward them with a deferential 3 second gaze. Also, shine that 3 seconds of sunshine on a passing acquaintance, the pharmacist who fills your prescription, the gas station attendant who comes to your car to pump gas.
And, of course, don’t forget your spouse or significant other. Put down that newspaper or tear your eyeballs away from the tube when he or she comes into the room. A respectful 3-second gaze makes a world of difference in ALL your personal and professional relationships.